I continue on with our Valentine’s Day series by talking about how to have a healthy relationship with a partner.
A Low Density Lifestyle gives you the ability to be in a healthy and long-lasting relationship, because you don’t carry baggage into it. Baggage is what can make you feel heavy and cause you to act out in unhealthy ways. Carrying baggage around is definitely one of the traits of living a High Density Lifestyle.
I would like to narrow down what makes a healthy relationship to four traits. Keep this in mind as you work to develop and cultivate your relationship. And whether your relationship is a 30-year marriage or you’re just starting out, these four traits hold true for each and everything in between.
The Four Traits
The first trait for a healthy relationship is Love. Obviously, there has to be a chemical connection, or a soul connection, between the two of you. Love is a mysterious thing, but when you feel it, you know you it.
The next trait for a healthy relationship is Trust. You have to trust one another and be honest with one another. If you go sneaking around doing things without telling the other, then your relationship is doomed. Remember how Integrity is one of the 12 steps of living a Low Density Lifestyle? Well, when you carry yourself with integrity, not only will you be honest with yourself, you’ll be honest in your relationships, and especially with your significant other, who should be the one you trust the most.
The next trait for a healthy relationship is Communication and Shared Vision. Most relationship experts say how important communication is to maintain a vital relationship, and this is true. I take it a step further though, because it’s not just about communication, but communication about your vision, and then sharing that vision, or at least finding a way to make the visions work together. Vision can be about buying a home, having children, working in a field that expresses who you are, eating a certain way and living a certain lifestyle; the list goes on. But if one person doesn’t agree with or is unwilling to accept the other person’s vision, then no matter how well you communicate, the relationship is doomed.
The last trait for a healthy relationship is to be emotionally, intellectually and spiritually healthy. You are healthy if you are self aware and free of baggage, insecurities and self-destructive tendencies. Or if you’re not, you’re willing to work on these. Hey, nobody is born perfect. But we’re all looking for healthy relationships and love – it’s just that we don’t want to be looking for love in all the wrong places.
So there you have it. I hope you had a wonderful Valentine’s Day, and remember, everyday is Valentine’s Day.